Tend to the important things, the serious matters, the consequential tasks. But don’t neglect yourself in the process.
In order to be a positive influence, you have to come from a positive place. Give yourself the time, the care, the space to maintain that positive presence.
It’s tempting to put off the simple enjoyment of life until all the problems are solved. But though you can make much progress, the problems will never all be solved.
Give quality time and attention to your own life, not later, but now. Make yourself able to be there for others by being good to yourself.
Though the demands are high and your resources are limited, there are plenty of ways to take good care of yourself. Refuse to use anything as an excuse for neglecting nutrition, exercise, family, friends, and enjoyable moments.
Remember to give yourself a little joy today, and every day. It will help renew your supply of energy to continue making a positive difference in life.
Casting yourself as a victim is a waste of your time and energy. Whether a minor inconvenience appears or a major difficulty arises, you have a much more powerful option.
Even when you truly are a victim, seeing yourself as such, treating yourself as such, will not improve your situation. What will improve the situation is to take full responsibility for doing something about it.
Make it your job to actually make things better. The smallest positive action is infinitely more effective than any amount of self-pity.
Acknowledge the tragedy, the unfairness, the carelessness, the injustice, but don’t make it worse by wallowing in it. No matter who or what is to blame for what happened, you can choose to be responsible for moving positively forward from it.
You cannot always avoid being hurt. But you never have to continue investing yourself in that hurt.
One setback is not the end of the world. Even a series of disappointments is not the end of the world.
Because life by its very nature is dynamic, and things change. The worse the situation becomes, the more desire and incentive everyone has to make it better.
That series of disappointments, as ominous and pervasive as it may be, will not extend in a straight line to infinity. At some point there will be pushback, there will be improvement, there will be a turnaround.
Certainly it is useful to anticipate difficulties so you can head them off early. But it’s also important to remind yourself that this, too, will pass.
Don’t give up on everything just because of a little problem, or a big problem, or a whole string of problems. Instead, keep moving forward as best you can.
This, too, will pass. And when it does, you can be thankful you continued to invest yourself in a positive future.